It was the summer of 2015 and I was getting myself ready and packed to go away on our family holiday that we had managed to organise with our busy schedule. I was finishing some last minute work before going so I would not have to come back to a desk full of paper work.
While waiting for some desktop folders to close down on my laptop I decided I would take a much needed breather for about a minute or so. So I decided to close my eyes and take a quick power nap I did however notice something was not all that well. In a moment of seconds I found myself busting out into tears.
I started crying uncontrollably like a baby and I wasn’t quite sure why.
After my little episode I decided that I would try to figure out why I felt the need to behave in such a manner. Thankfully no one was around to see my little episode.
The Health Benefits Of Crying
In a article written by Natasha Mann on netdoctor she explains that research has been conducted which has suggested that tears could actually be a way of flushing negative chemicals out of the body and doing you a world of good.
Many people claim to feel better after a good cry.
Whether it’s to mourn the end of a close relationship or because of the sheer frustration of a bad day at work, once you come to wipe the tears away, the world can seem like it’s been put back together again.
Now research has suggested that tears could actually be a way of flushing negative chemicals out of the body and doing you a world of good.
Maybe You Should Be Crying Over Spilt Milk
Everything that happens to us in life happens in ‘purposes’ which I also look at as stages. And sometimes, one thing leads to another. Instead of locking yourself up in your cage of fears, past heartaches, embarrassment and failures, maybe it’s time you have a good long cry over them and then move on. Treat life’s heartache as your teachers and they will become your tools in both your self-improvement and to your success.
I have just recently watched an amazing film called Patch Adams played by one of my favourite all time actors Robin Williams which I found to be very moving movie I, had my box of tissues at hand and use them all throughout the movie. ‘Its one great film to watch that will help you improve yourself’.
Hunter “patch” Adams is a medical student who failed to make it through the board exams. After months of suffering in melancholy, depression and suicidal attempts he decided to seek for medical attention and voluntarily admitted himself in a psychiatric ward. His months of stay in the hospital led him to meeting different kinds of people. Sick people in that matter. He met a catatonic, a mentally retarded, a schizophrenic and so on.
Patch (Robin Williams) found ways of treating his own ailment and finally realised the he could get he’s life back on track. He woke up one morning realising that after all the failure and pains he had gone through, he still wanted to become a doctor. He carried with himself a positive attitude that eventually brought him self improvement, happiness and success. He didn’t only improved himself, but he improved the quality of life of the people around him.
“Did he succeed? Needless to say, he became the best damn doctor his country has ever known”. So, When Does Self-improvement Become Synonymous With Your Happiness And success? And Where Do We Start?
Take these 9 tips, friends…
- 1. Stop thinking and feeling as if you’re a failure, because you’re not. How can others accept you if YOU can’t accept YOU?
- When you see hunks and models on TV, think more on self-improvement, not self pitying. Self acceptance is not just about having nice slender legs, or great abs. Concentrate on your inner beauty because we all have some.
- When people feel so down and low about themselves, help them move up. Don’t go down with them. They’ll pull you down further and both of you will end up feeling inferior.
- The world is a large room for lessons, not mistakes. Don’t feel stupid and doomed forever just because you failed on a science quiz. There’s always a next time. Make room for a next times in your life.
- Take things one step at a time. ‘You don’t expect what we label as a bad person’ to overnight become a goody-two-shoes in just a snap of a finger. Well I think there is no such thing anyway goody-two-shoes that’s just mine opinion I’ve lived with myself and the human race for quite a while now. Self-improvement is a one day at a time process.
- Self-improvement results to inner stability, personality development and dig this …. SUCCESS. It comes from self-confidence, self-appreciation and self-esteem.
Set meaningful and achievable goals. Self-improvement doesn’t turn you to be the exact replica of ——- or ——— you fill in the gaps, but it hopes and aims to result to you having a improved and better YOU.
- Little things mean BIG to other people. Sometimes, we don’t realise that the little things that we do like a pat on the back, saying “hi” or “hello”, greeting someone a “good day” or telling Mrs. Smith something like “hey, I love your new hair cut!” are simple things that mean so much to other people. When we’re being appreciative about beautiful things around us and other people, we also become beautiful to them.
- When you’re willing to accept change and go through the process of your own self-improvement, it doesn’t mean that everyone else is. The world is a place where people of different values and of different attitudes hang out. Sometimes, even if you think you and your best friend always like to do the same thing together at the same time, she would most likely decline an invitation to have a week of a self-improvement binge. ‘Not like an over intake of self-improvement is a bad thing, but hopefully you get my drift’.
- Remember that there’s no such thing as ‘over night success’. Its always a wonderful feeling to hold on to the things that you already have now, realising that those are just one of the things you once wished for.
A very nice quote I once was told says that “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” We are all here to learn our lessons. Our parents, school teachers, friends, colleagues, office mates, neighbours… they are all our teachers in some way.
When we open our doors for self-improvement, we increase our chances to head to the road of younger, happier and successful you.
Author: Rachael Aprill Phillips
Bio: Rachael Aprill Phillips is the CEO and founder of The Richible Group a collective of companies whose vision is to help over a million people launch, run and grow a highly successful business. She was also named Top Global Marketing Expert by Huffington Post.