It’s funny to think that after 10 years in business I finally will be moving to my own business premises after working from my home office. Something I would have been ashamed to mention 5 years ago.
But I have come to a place where I understand more and more that being real and authentic to myself no matter the pressure to pretend, lie and fake it till I make it pressure from media. I myself feel so much happier as an entrepreneur, mum and wife after learning to live and do business this way.
In the last 10 years I’ve seen more than over 1000 people walk through my virtual office through my website Rachael Academy and I have gone out of my way to help as many people as possible to start, run and grow a business.
But while helping so many people I still found myself afraid of taking the next step and leap for my own business. I knew I had to take a leap if I was going to position myself within the chance to help more people and live the life I truly want. Which was what motivated me 10 years ago to leave my safe government job as a business studies teacher to launch my own business.
“I’m still afraid of taken on new challenges, business opportunities and adventures and you know I’m okay with that, It means I’m human and alive”.
I’m taken on a new adventure in 2017 and moving in to new business premises.
“Am I scared?”
“Yes! you bet I am”
“But I know for me it is the right time to take the leap of faith as they say, as I can no longer hide behind my home office and wish and dream to build a global and international business, which I’ve managed to do so far with the little I have and I’ve managed to work with big brands and clients. So as I see it the sky is the limit for 2017 and beyond”.
Life isn’t the sweetest candy. Sometimes, when I feel like the world is just too heavy, I look around and find people who continued to live fascinating and wonderful lives. And then thoughts come popping into my mind like bubbles from nowhere – “How did their life become so adorably sweet? “How come they still can manage to laugh and play around despite a busy stressful life?” Then I pause and observed for a while… I figured out that maybe, they start to work on a place called ‘self’.
So, how does one become genuinely happy? A question I continually asked myself until I found the answer.
Step 1. I Discovered Is To Love Yourself
My theology professor uncle once said this to me “loving means accepting.” To love oneself means to accept that you are not a perfect being, but behind the imperfections must lie a great ounce of courage to be able to discover ways on how to improve your repertoire to recover from our mistakes.
Genuine happiness also pertains to contentment. When you are contented with the job you have, the way you look, with your family, your friends, the place you live in, your car, and all the things you now have – truly, you know the answer to the question “how to be genuinely happy.”
When we discover a small start somewhere from within, that small start will eventually lead to something else, and to something else. But if you keep questioning life and why it has never done you any good, you will never be able to find genuine happiness.
I believe that life is about finding out about right and wrong, trying and failing, wining and losing. These are things that happen as often as you inhale and exhale. Failure, in a person’s life has become as abundant and necessary as air. But this should not hinder us from becoming happy and going for things we truly want out of life.
When we have learnt to get up even though we fall we develop a secret vault of beauty that gives us an edge in life especially when working with others.
Step 2. How To Be Genuinely Happy In Spite Of All This?
I tell you… every time you exert effort to improve the quality of any life and just you being, whether it’s as simple as cleaning up your desk in your office after work, helping a friend, taking care of your sick dog, fail on board exams and trying again, life gives you equivalent points for that.
Imagine life as a big score board like those which are used in a basketball game. Every time you take a step forward, you make scoring points. Wouldn’t it be nice to look at that board at the end of each game and think to yourself “Whew! I got a point today. I’m glad I gave it a shot.”, instead of looking at it all blank and murmur “Geez, I didn’t even hit a score today. I wish I had the guts to try out. We could have won!” and then walk away.
Genuine happiness isn’t about driving the hottest Formula 1 car, nor getting the employee of the year award, earning the highest 13th month pay, or beating the sales quota. Sometimes, the most sought after prizes in life doesn’t always go to the fastest, the strongest, the bravest or not even the best.
So, how do you become genuinely happy? Every one has his own definition of ‘happiness’. Happiness for a writer may mean launching as much best selling books as possible. Happiness for a basketball player may mean getting the player of the year award. Happiness for a beggar may mean a lot of money.
Happiness for a business man or woman may mean success. So, really now, how do we become genuinely happy? Simple. You don’t have to have the best things in this world. Its about doing and making the best out of every single thing.
When you find yourself smiling at your own mistake and telling your self “Oh, I’ll do better next time”, you carry with you a flame of strong will power to persevere that may spread out like a brush fire. You possess a willingness to stand up again and try, that will make you a genuinely happy person it truly will.
When you learn to accept yourself and your own faults. You pass step 1 in the project “How to become genuinely happy” and move into step 2 “How to become genuinely happy In spite of all this” For as long as you know how to accept others, you will also be accepted. For as long as you love and know how to love, you will receive love ten folds back.
Again, throw me that same question…..
“how to become genuinely happy?”. I’ll refer you to a friend of mine who strongly quoted- “Most of us know that laughter is the best medicine to life’s aches and pain. But most of us don’t know that the best kind of laughter is laughter over self. Coz then you don’t just become happy… you become free.”